I found your piece beautiful, moving and powerful, Rachael.
As a fellow widow, I deeply connected with your journey. Moving forward after loss is an unpredictable and difficult path—one I never expected to navigate the way I did. When I met someone new and felt an unexpected attraction, I was stunned by the emotional challenges that followed.
Surprisingly early in my new relationship, we agreed to write a book about the journey—about the complexities that come with loving again after this specific kind of loss. We were both aware of how being with someone widowed is completely different from being with someone divorced or never married.
The guilt that caught me off guard, the way touch felt like breaking an unspoken commitment to my late husband… there were so many moments to move through, each requiring a kind of courage I hadn’t anticipated.
We did write that book. And my late husband Joluut is a central character throughout its pages. If you’d like a copy, I would love to send one your way. In Tandem: Pedaling Through Midlife on a Bicycle Built for Two is our story—and I hope it resonates with you.
Sending so much love. I'm so privileged to have revisited with Sergio in our podcast conversation. Justine's birthday was Wednesday. She has the same "lifework" as him. Its a gene keys thing...but basically it comes down to their preference to a life of adventure...and on the other side of that, boredom. LOL. How Gemini. The wittiest and cleverest of them all. Like quicksilver, we can't hold them for long...and they are off again. What a pleasure it is to know and love them in our lives. Lots of hugs and kisses blown to you from California on this special day of days. They are never so far, after all, are they? Thank goodness for that! xoxoxox
lots of people born this week of the year tend to have issues with Seratonin. He was a wise old soul, that was clear. Not sure if it was the case with him, but it def is with mine.
Such a beautifully complicated moment —— and you have described it with layers of such eloquent nuance. I’m grateful to be a witness to your evolving life.
I found your piece beautiful, moving and powerful, Rachael.
As a fellow widow, I deeply connected with your journey. Moving forward after loss is an unpredictable and difficult path—one I never expected to navigate the way I did. When I met someone new and felt an unexpected attraction, I was stunned by the emotional challenges that followed.
Surprisingly early in my new relationship, we agreed to write a book about the journey—about the complexities that come with loving again after this specific kind of loss. We were both aware of how being with someone widowed is completely different from being with someone divorced or never married.
The guilt that caught me off guard, the way touch felt like breaking an unspoken commitment to my late husband… there were so many moments to move through, each requiring a kind of courage I hadn’t anticipated.
We did write that book. And my late husband Joluut is a central character throughout its pages. If you’d like a copy, I would love to send one your way. In Tandem: Pedaling Through Midlife on a Bicycle Built for Two is our story—and I hope it resonates with you.
https://InTandemBook
I'd love to read! It's so wonderful that you wrote about the journey and experience together.
Beautifully stated. Sending love. Releasing memories here too…feels right.
Sending so much love. I'm so privileged to have revisited with Sergio in our podcast conversation. Justine's birthday was Wednesday. She has the same "lifework" as him. Its a gene keys thing...but basically it comes down to their preference to a life of adventure...and on the other side of that, boredom. LOL. How Gemini. The wittiest and cleverest of them all. Like quicksilver, we can't hold them for long...and they are off again. What a pleasure it is to know and love them in our lives. Lots of hugs and kisses blown to you from California on this special day of days. They are never so far, after all, are they? Thank goodness for that! xoxoxox
lots of people born this week of the year tend to have issues with Seratonin. He was a wise old soul, that was clear. Not sure if it was the case with him, but it def is with mine.
This is so beautifully written. You have kept his memory alive beautifully, and laid his ashes to rest beautifully, too.
Such a beautifully complicated moment —— and you have described it with layers of such eloquent nuance. I’m grateful to be a witness to your evolving life.
So much love